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One of this recent days i decided to have a nature walk with one of my closest associate along the way we saw a group of women chit-chatting some distance ahead of us and one of them happened to be expectant to mean that any soon she would bring a new creature to planet earth.
As we continued advancing to where they were i would now clearly hear what they were saying.
The other women were cheerfully congratulating the expectant lady for accepting to keep the child in her womb.
Well we went past those women but all along there was one thing that was lingering in my conscious mind.
“Why would this women just congratulate that one lady and forgot that there was a man who as well facilitated this?”
Long before i could unravel this puzzle i came to conclusively say that
“HARD WORK DOESN’T NECESSARILY MATTER ,RESULTS DO.”
To this women;they didn’t want to care how this one lady got expectant, all what they wanted to celebrate is the result of hard work.
The same case i would contextualize it with life -How many people celebrate the successful you and forget about the YOU who was troubled so much to be where you are today.
Nobody cares where you have come from as much as you are successful ,that’s enough-period!!
No one cares how you spent sleepless night penning down strategies on how to become what they are seeing you as today, or how many times you have fallen trying to find the path and gate of your destiny-people won’t care.
Even when its a case of a student who sits for any exam and passes highly no one bothers to care how the student got that excellent grade-very few knows that the student trans-nighted reading, spent all the time 24/7 in the library trying to uncover the hidden knowledge in those books.
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WHAT IF YOU NEVER MADE IT?
Now this is the time people tries to come up with their vague suggestions and misleading theories are jolted down of the reasons why you failed.
If the same lady was never expectant and this would be her sixth year since she got married
People will distance themselves from her and will start backbiting
“She’s barren,she has aborted severally no wonder she has never had child all this time” or “She must be taking a lot of pills”
In case of a student who just failed they will say
“His cunning behavior can’t let him to concentrate on his studies”
When its a politician who has just failed in a Democratic post they will say
“He even never campaigned_no wonder he failed
Conclusively we would say; to people what matters is the result of your hard work ,they will not bother to know how hard it has been to be where you are right at the momet
But conversely if you fail they will have a good explanation and some nice tales as to why you never made it.
THE BIG QUESTION will be do you do your best to please people?
And the obvious will be “NO”
An American stand up comedian, actor and author Bwana William Henry A.K.A Bill Cosby once said,
I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.
If you do what you usually do in bid of pleasing people you will find yourself in a cross road with a million of ways leading you to different destinations .
So its upon you to stand firmly and know where you are headed to for if you don’t aim at a specific place you will be dropped anywhere along the way.
Its not a matter of the perfect you-just a point of ever progressing forward and never listening to everyone some people will automatically lead you astray.
When you have done all your best its very evident that God does the rest -Your best must not be extremely excellent it could as well as be average but truly clinging on to God he will assure you that “LITTLE IS MORE WHEN HE IS IN IT“
Do not compete with anyone ,if you will have to, then compete with the person you were yesterday.
Reason is so clear -we are in our different races for we have got our defined unique short and long life objectives. I may be competing to become the best dad with a person who is yearning to become the best political activist. So in short i would say i have wasted all of my energy -competing with the wrong ones
When i came to stop doing all this is when i woke up like it has been my routine.
So while I was jogging one morning , I noticed a person who was about half a kilometer ahead of me.
I could tell he was running a little slower than me and I thought, good, I shall try to catch him. I had about a kilometer before I needed to turn off. So I started running faster and faster. Every block, I was gaining on him just a little bit. After just a few minutes I was only about 100 meters behind him, so I really picked up the pace and pushed myself.
You would have thought I was running in the last leg of an Olympic competition. I was determined to catch him. Finally, I did it! I caught and passed him. On the inside I felt so good. “I beat him” Of course, he didn’t even know we were racing. After I passed him, I realized I had been so focused on competing against him that I had missed my turn. I had gone nearly six blocks past my turn and I had to turn and go back.
Its unnecessary competition which led me nowhere rather than leaving me much tired than i should have been.
Be Yourself no matter what other people think
God made you the way you are for a good reason
That aside an original is more worth than just a copy.
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